K\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck kadar iyilik de var; fakat as\u0131l mesele, k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011fe al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f olmam\u0131z.
\nAl\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc \u201cnormal\u201d sayd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z yerde, iyili\u011fe gelince kendi i\u00e7imizde e\u011fip b\u00fck\u00fcyoruz. Kime g\u00f6re Neye g\u00f6re.!
\n\u201cHer do\u011fru her yerde s\u00f6ylenmez\u201d bilincini \u00e7o\u011fu zaman bir erdem san\u0131yoruz; oysa bu c\u00fcmle, kimi zaman \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in susman\u0131n rafine bir bahanesine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor. G\u00f6rmezden gelmekte, konu\u015fmamay\u0131 \u201colgunluk\u201d diye paketlemekte ve buna ra\u011fmen \u201ciyi insan\u201d maskesini ta\u015f\u0131makta olduk\u00e7a mahiriz. Daha da ironik olan \u015fu, k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn en b\u00fcy\u00fck destek\u00e7isi h\u00e2line geldi\u011fimizi fark etmiyoruz.
\nKimse \u00f6z\u00fcnde tamamen iyi ya da tamamen k\u00f6t\u00fc de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n
Bu iki potansiyel hepimizde vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Hangisini besledi\u011fimiz ise bilin\u00e7li ya da bilin\u00e7siz tercihlerimizin toplam\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n
\u201cBulundu\u011fumuz be\u015f ki\u015finin ortalamas\u0131y\u0131z\u201d diye diye birbirimizden ka\u00e7arken, belki de bir araya geldi\u011fimizde iyili\u011fi \u00e7o\u011faltabilece\u011fimiz alanlar\u0131 k\u00f6relttik. Kadim s\u00f6zler bo\u015funa s\u00f6ylenmedi: K\u00f6t\u00fc haber tez yay\u0131l\u0131r.<\/p>\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck, iyili\u011fe k\u0131yasla \u00e7ok daha az emek ister. Bir dedikodu, bir ima, yar\u0131m bir c\u00fcmle; ba\u011flam\u0131ndan kopar\u0131lm\u0131\u015f tek bir an\u2026 Saatler i\u00e7inde yay\u0131l\u0131r, g\u00fcnler i\u00e7inde normalle\u015fir, haftalar i\u00e7inde \u201czaten biliniyordu\u201d denilerek s\u0131radanla\u015f\u0131r. \u0130nsan zihni, tehdide daha h\u0131zl\u0131 tepki vermeye programl\u0131d\u0131r. Bu y\u00fczden k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck yaln\u0131zca yapanla s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131 kalmaz; anlatanla, aktaranla, sessiz kalanla \u00e7o\u011fal\u0131r. \u00c7o\u011fu zaman bu zincirin neresinde durdu\u011fumuzu sormadan, onun bir halkas\u0131 oluruz.<\/p>\n
\u201c\u00dcz\u00fcm \u00fcz\u00fcme baka baka karar\u0131r\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc, bug\u00fcn bilimsel bir kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k da buluyor: ayna n\u00f6ronlar. Birbirimize benzeriz; birbirimizi taklit ederiz; birbirimizden etkileniriz. Ne var ki k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck s\u00f6z konusu oldu\u011funda \u201cAman Allah korusun, bana bula\u015fmas\u0131n\u201d refleksiyle geri \u00e7ekilirken, iyilik i\u00e7in ayn\u0131 refleksi devreye sokmuyoruz.<\/p>\n
\u201cBir dur, bunu nas\u0131l iyiye \u00e7evirebiliriz?\u201d demiyoruz.<\/p>\n
Bir yandan \u201cKimseye k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm dokunmas\u0131n\u201d diyerek ya\u015fam\u0131 minimum temasla s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fcyoruz; \u00f6te yandan kimseye iyili\u011fimizin de dokunmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir hayat\u0131, sanki bir ahl\u00e2k ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131ym\u0131\u015f gibi normalle\u015ftiriyoruz. Kendimize iyilik yapmay\u0131, iyilik san\u0131yoruz. Sonra da aynaya bak\u0131p rahatl\u0131kla s\u00f6yl\u00fcyoruz:<\/p>\n
\u201cBen iyiyim. O k\u00f6t\u00fc.\u201d
\nHadi oradan.
\nHi\u00e7birimiz bu kadar iyi de\u011filiz.
\nToplumsal yozla\u015fman\u0131n e\u015fi\u011finde de\u011fil, tam ortas\u0131nday\u0131z.
\nMadem herkes bu kadar \u201ciyi\u201d, o h\u00e2lde bu k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck nereden geliyor?<\/p>\n
Birbirini destekleyen gruplar olu\u015fuyor; herkes birbirinin duymak istedi\u011fini s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor. \u00d6nce kendilerini, sonra birbirlerini ikna ediyorlar. Kendi yalanlar\u0131na topluca iman edip, yine de \u201cbiz iyiyiz\u201d demeye devam ediyorlar.<\/p>\n
\u00dczg\u00fcn\u00fcm ama de\u011filiz.
\nDayan\u0131\u015fma k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcne d\u00f6nmedik\u00e7e;
\n\u201cBana dokunmayan y\u0131lan bin ya\u015fas\u0131n\u201d mottosundan uzakla\u015fmad\u0131k\u00e7a;
\nSosyal medyan\u0131n hedonizm k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcne ara vermedik\u00e7e;
\n\u0130yili\u011fi bile bireysel bir performans alan\u0131na \u00e7eviren narsistik bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan vazge\u00e7medik\u00e7e\u2026
\n\u0130yiye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015femeyece\u011fiz.
\nHerkes \u201ciyi\u201d oldu\u011funu iddia ederken, ben iyileri aramak istemiyorum.
\nPlanl\u0131 listelerde, etiketlerde, payla\u015f\u0131mlarda de\u011fil.
\nTesad\u00fcfi kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmalarda bulmak istiyorum.<\/p>\n
Umar\u0131m iyilik bula\u015f\u0131c\u0131 olur.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
K\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck kadar iyilik de var; fakat as\u0131l mesele, k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011fe al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f olmam\u0131z. Al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc \u201cnormal\u201d sayd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z yerde, iyili\u011fe gelince kendi i\u00e7imizde e\u011fip b\u00fck\u00fcyoruz. Kime g\u00f6re Neye g\u00f6re.! \u201cHer do\u011fru her yerde s\u00f6ylenmez\u201d bilincini \u00e7o\u011fu zaman bir erdem san\u0131yoruz; oysa bu c\u00fcmle, kimi zaman \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in susman\u0131n rafine bir bahanesine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor. G\u00f6rmezden gelmekte, konu\u015fmamay\u0131 \u201colgunluk\u201d diye …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":632,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[129,581,582,12],"class_list":["post-631","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-farkindalikizbirakir","tag-iyilik","tag-kolektifsorumluluk","tag-narratiqbrand"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/kotuler-hep-kazanir-diyenler-kazananin-kim-oldugunu-bastan-belirler.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/631","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=631"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/631\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":633,"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/631\/revisions\/633"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/632"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=631"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=631"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=631"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}