K\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck Nerede Ba\u015flar, Nerede Biter?<\/p>\n
Hi\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcn\u00fcz m\u00fc ger\u00e7ekten? Yoksa g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz her k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fckten h\u0131zl\u0131ca uzakla\u015fmay\u0131 m\u0131 tercih ettiniz? Ka\u00e7arken ac\u0131 \u00e7ekmek mi a\u011f\u0131r geliyordu, yoksa o k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn sorumlulu\u011funun size de bula\u015fabilece\u011fi ihtimali mi?<\/p>\n
\u0130\u00e7inden \u00e7\u0131kamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her haks\u0131zl\u0131k kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda dilimize pelesenk etti\u011fimiz bir c\u00fcmle var: \u201cDe\u011fi\u015ftiremeyece\u011fim \u015feyler i\u00e7in \u00e7abalamay\u0131 b\u0131rakt\u0131m.\u201d<\/p>\n
Zaman\u0131nda elinden geleni yapm\u0131\u015f ama yetmemi\u015f olanlara asla laf etmiyorum.<\/p>\n
Benim s\u00f6z\u00fcm; hi\u00e7bir zaman \u00e7aba g\u00f6stermeyip, sadece \u015fikayet ederek kendini temize \u00e7ekenlere. Olmaz denilen yerde bile, denemeden vazge\u00e7mek yerine, \u00f6nce ger\u00e7ekten denemek gerekir.<\/p>\n
Peki neden net konu\u015fan, \u00e7abalayan insanlar, \u201cnegatif\u201d diye etiketleniyor bug\u00fcn? \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc, art\u0131k \u00e7o\u011fumuz, ger\u00e7e\u011fi duymaktan \u00e7ok, duydu\u011fumuz \u015feyin kula\u011f\u0131m\u0131za nas\u0131l geldi\u011fiyle ilgileniyoruz.<\/p>\n
Samimiyet yerine nezaket s\u00fcs\u00fc verilmi\u015f y\u00fczeysellik var.<\/p>\n
Ve kimse net olmaya tahamm\u00fcl edemiyor.<\/p>\n
Eskiden insanlar, niyetiyle konu\u015furdu.<\/p>\n
\u015eimdi niyeti saklayan c\u00fcmlelerin arkas\u0131na s\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131yoruz.<\/p>\n
Dilimiz politikle\u015fti,i\u00e7imiz ger\u00e7eklerden koptu.<\/p>\n
Bu y\u00fczden konu\u015fam\u0131yoruz,anla\u015fam\u0131yoruz,g\u00fcvenemiyoruz.<\/p>\n
Ve k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck tam da burada ba\u015fl\u0131yor:G\u00f6rmemeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z anda, g\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fczle de\u011fil \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131m\u0131zla bakmaya ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda.<\/p>\n
Ge\u00e7enlerde Say\u0131n, Ay\u015fe Kulin\u2019in bir s\u00f6yle\u015fisini dinledim.<\/p>\n
Bayram zaman\u0131 evden \u00e7\u0131kan yemek kokular\u0131 kom\u015fuya ula\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, bunun bir \u201cikram\u201dvesilesi oldu\u011funu anlat\u0131yordu.<\/p>\n
Nezaketin,payla\u015fman\u0131n,g\u00f6rg\u00fcn\u00fcn bir aile terbiyesi oldu\u011funu.<\/p>\n
\u015eimdi o gelenek h\u00e2l\u00e2 baz\u0131 evlerde ya\u015f\u0131yor, evet.<\/p>\n
Ama bir zamanlar k\u00fclt\u00fcr olan \u015fey, bug\u00fcn ancak \u201cistisna\u201d olarak an\u0131l\u0131yor.<\/p>\n
Eskiden hak vermek do\u011fald\u0131.<\/p>\n
\u015eimdi hak etmek yetmiyor.<\/p>\n
L\u00fctuf gibi sunulan haklar, insanlar\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na bor\u00e7 gibi sar\u0131l\u0131yor.<\/p>\n
Ve en k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc, bor\u00e7lu hissetmek bile art\u0131k edepten de\u011fil; ili\u015fkisel menfaatten kaynaklan\u0131yor.<\/p>\n
B\u00f6yle b\u00f6yle de\u011ferler \u015fekil de\u011fi\u015ftiriyor.<\/p>\n
B\u00f6yle b\u00f6yle g\u00f6rg\u00fc, yerini g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr olmaya b\u0131rak\u0131yor.<\/p>\n
Kurumlar da bu d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcmden azade de\u011fil.<\/p>\n
Art\u0131k \u00fcretmek de\u011fil, parlamak marifet say\u0131l\u0131yor.<\/p>\n
Liyakat de\u011fil sadakat alk\u0131\u015flan\u0131yor.<\/p>\n
Ele\u015ftiren de\u011fil susan y\u00fckseliyor.<\/p>\n
Ve sonra soruyoruz:<\/p>\n
\u201cNeden insanlar kendini geli\u015ftirmiyor, neden kimse \u00e7aba g\u00f6stermiyor?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc sistem, \u00e7aba g\u00f6stereni de\u011fil, g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr olan\u0131 \u00f6d\u00fcllendiriyor.<\/p>\n
Bu zihniyet e\u011fitimde de kendini g\u00f6steriyor.<\/p>\n
Merak yok, ezber var.<\/p>\n
Soru sormak de\u011fil, uyum sa\u011flamak \u00f6\u011fretiliyor.<\/p>\n
\u00c7ocuklar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmesin diye de\u011fil, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnememesi i\u00e7in b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fcl\u00fcyor adeta.<\/p>\n
Ve biz t\u00fcm bunlara \u015fahitlik ederken.<\/p>\n
Sadece izliyoruz. Kimi zaman ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7evirerek, kimi zaman “benim alan\u0131m de\u011fil” diyerek.<\/p>\n
\u0130\u015fte k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck, tam da burada ba\u015fl\u0131yor.<\/p>\n
Bir \u015fey yapmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda. G\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc yok sayd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda.<\/p>\n
\ud83d\udccc O zaman sormak laz\u0131m,<\/p>\n
Ger\u00e7ekten hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yapam\u0131yor muyuz?<\/p>\n
Yoksa hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yapmamay\u0131 m\u0131 se\u00e7iyoruz?<\/p>\n
\ud83c\udfaf Peki, ne yapmak laz\u0131m,<\/p>\n
\u2022 \u015eahit oldu\u011funuz \u015feyleri yok saymamak.<\/p>\n
\u2022 \u015eikayet etmemek, \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm \u00fcretmek.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Kendi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7evrenizde, b\u00fcy\u00fck farklar yaratabilecek hareketleri k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsememek.<\/p>\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ba\u015flatan siz olmayabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n
Ama susarsan\u0131z, tamamlayan olursunuz.<\/p>\n
\ud83d\udd8b \u201cFark\u0131ndal\u0131k iz b\u0131rak\u0131r.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
K\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck Nerede Ba\u015flar, Nerede Biter? Hi\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcn\u00fcz m\u00fc ger\u00e7ekten? Yoksa g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz her k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fckten h\u0131zl\u0131ca uzakla\u015fmay\u0131 m\u0131 tercih ettiniz? Ka\u00e7arken ac\u0131 \u00e7ekmek mi a\u011f\u0131r geliyordu, yoksa o k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn sorumlulu\u011funun size de bula\u015fabilece\u011fi ihtimali mi? \u0130\u00e7inden \u00e7\u0131kamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her haks\u0131zl\u0131k kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda dilimize pelesenk etti\u011fimiz bir c\u00fcmle var: \u201cDe\u011fi\u015ftiremeyece\u011fim \u015feyler i\u00e7in \u00e7abalamay\u0131 b\u0131rakt\u0131m.\u201d Zaman\u0131nda elinden geleni yapm\u0131\u015f ama yetmemi\u015f …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":103,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[94,99,22,6,98,92,86,95,96,91,97,93],"class_list":["post-102","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-adalet","tag-degisim","tag-etik","tag-farkindalik","tag-hak","tag-kotuluk","tag-kurumkulturu","tag-liyakat","tag-sadakat","tag-sessizlik","tag-toplumsaldegerler","tag-vicdan"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Silence-is-Complicity.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/102","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=102"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/102\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":104,"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/102\/revisions\/104"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/103"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=102"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=102"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/narratiqbrand.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=102"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}